A Friend Like No OTTER
I think as wives we get so wrapped up in being a wife we
forget how to be just a friend to our husband.
Mainly because we’re too busy griping about our husband to our
girlfriends to even consider him as a best friend too. Question…is it possible to be best friends
with your husband? If you’re not sure,
then it may be because you think…he’s not going to understand me the way
another woman would. You’re right, he’s most
likely not going to understand “exactly” like a woman but he can and should
still be your friend. So how can you become
more than just a wife and begin to be a friend to your husband if you’re not? By being…
Understanding
Proverbs 27:9
9 Oil and perfume make the heart
glad, So a man's counsel is sweet to his friend.
A friend can be told when you’re struggling with something
and they’ll be there to help you and not judge you in any way, giving godly
advice when asked. If our husband admits
to struggling with something, we can help by showing him we don’t hate him for
it by judging him harshly to reprimand his sin.
Communicate in a loving way your feelings about it. Give him time to overcome it and remember habits
are hard to break, so make better ones with him.
Compassionate
Job 2:11-13
11 Now when Job's three friends
heard of all this adversity that had come upon him, they came each one from his
own place, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite;
and they made an appointment together to come to sympathize with him and
comfort him.
12 When they lifted up their eyes
at a distance and did not recognize him, they raised their voices and wept. And
each of them tore his robe and they threw dust over their heads toward the sky.
13 Then they sat down on the ground
with him for seven days and seven nights with no one speaking a word to him,
for they saw that his pain was very great.
A friend is happy to share your burdens, even if the way
they help is by sitting there in silence.
A husband will sometimes push his wife away (mentally) during hard times
to keep from looking weak in her eyes, which may be hurtful to us, if we don’t
understand this. If this does happen at some point in your
marriage, you may help best by sitting in “silence” and praying for him until he
does need more.
Loving
Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times.
We certainly fall short of this at times. We don’t even like our husband half the time
much less love him at all times as a friend.
Or maybe it’s because we don’t view our husband as much of a friend as
we should. We may even deem him more of an enemy at
times. Regardless…however you consider
your husband at the moment, friend or enemy, Jesus says to love both.
Faithful
Proverbs 18:24
24 A man of too many friends
comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Most of us do have many friends but when it comes down to it,
our husband should be our best friend. The
one we stick closer to than anyone else on earth. A friend that our husband feels he can share
anything with. To know that no matter
what, in Christ, we’ll be there for him and love him at all times.
Joyful
Proverbs 27:17
17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man
sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
A friend is always there to make you smile. A wife can be a great friend to her husband
if she is happy and smiling when he comes home from work. Happy to see him because she truly missed
being with him. I know it’s easier said than done, especially when nothing’s
gone right while cleaning all day and watching the kids but we can choose to be
happy, despite what our day has been like, not bitter.
Lover
Psalm 88:18
18 You have removed lover and
friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness.
Be happy. Be a lover
and a friend. The worst thing a wife can be to her husband is one or the other. To think, I'd rather be just a friend or roommate with my husband or give sexually but fail miserably at being a good friend is sad and above all sinful.
Love may bring us together but friendship keeps us there.
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